Once upon a time a man got in touch with me expressing his undying love and attraction. He had seen me in different places and knew of me, and apparently heard of my savage beauty as he liked to call it. Eventually, his smile, expression and first few days of electrical affection proved his words right. He did have a crush on me, maybe even liked me. Over the next few weeks I warmed up to him and enjoyed his conversations. A good looking guy for once, who was funny and uplifting. However, I observed a very odd side to him.
Yes he was the perfect man on the outside, but over time he appeared so rigid, so routine, and very unavailabe. Questions like where did you spend your evening, and how did you meet this friend were all of a sudden of an offensive nature, and routine answers were always provided. I always felt like I bored him.
Topics discussed included how many minutes one jogs for before they get tired, and when does fish get fried for lunch in a household. I realized then there was something wrong with him, and more so in us communicating. As time passed, discussing day to day things with him proved to be challenging. He was there superficially, but I could never get to this man's core.
I realized the nature of this guy. He was boring, unattentive, unavailable and a critic who knew the price of everything and the value of nothing. When I first met him, it was fun testing the waters and wondering what a mad raging beauty catcher was all about, and now that I knew what this electron cloud was , the time came for me to repel. I tried doing that, by ignoring. However he kept getting back in touch, more like a routine part of his day more then anything else, until one evening I decided to put an end to it. I asked him not to call me back again because I felt like I was just that, a routine. I explained to him why. I expected him to say sorry or even ask me what was up, or why was I asking him never to call me again. But instead he shocked me, and replied, "Sure, Bye!"
I suppose he did mean what he meant, BYE. He literally obeyed me when I asked him not to call, without even making any deal whether small or big, of it at all.
Two things sprung up in my mind. What a weirdo for spending so much time and loosing so much of his dignity chasing me and then taking the first chance to stop talking to me, and then secondly boy that was the easiest guy do get rid of in the world!!
Why did he waste so much of his time talking about his affection for me? You would rarely see a woman do that!
Boys Lie, indeed.
Thankfully, we put boys through many tests before showing off any of our affection to them. Girls, why not try the "Hi, don't call me back, ok?" method!
The boy's resistance or not to that idea will tell you much about them!
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" this guy...knew the price of everything and the value of nothing"
I can't stand guys like that - they are so shallow. They talk about money as if they're calculating how much cash they are spending on us, estimating our costs, rather than remembering errr that there is a personality behind the boobs! (sorry to be so crude!)
I can understand why this guy took the "don't call me back" thing so lightly. He probably just accepted out of practicality - if you don't want him to call back, then "why should I", maybe he thought. I couldn't care less about how men's minds work when it comes to relationships - there's only one thing to tell if a man wants you - and that is, if he is YOUR man, and he thinks you are HIS woman. This guy didn't want to fight for you.
What does amaze me is how some guys spend so much time with us, then disappear as fast as they came! Don't these guys have a soul, don't they place value on intimacy exchanged with us? I don't get it. It happens a lot in my relationships: guys do the disappearing act.
Reading this post really touched my heart; at one point I was laughing hysterically and at the end I nearly had tears in my eyes..guys can be such a waste of time sometimes but we just gotta keep looking til Mr. Perfecto springs from the nearest cooker ;)
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Hi there
Indeed!! I'm so glad it made you laugh hysterically. Disappearing acts are scarey. Resulting emotional pain and heart ache are not to be taken lightly.
I've read through your blog. I am not sure how affected you get by your experiences, as people are different. and I am not one to judge. However my advice would be to avoid intimacy with people of this nature who don't appreciate a person's worth.
as the saying goes: be intimate with only few, and let them be well tried and trusted before.
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