It was "Just" a one night stand

So , are men really an odd species? Are they just little boys deep down inside, who take every opportunity to lie, or be truthful, and still lie?


One day I was walking along an exhibition with some friends and I bumped into a group of nice and friendly looking guys. They seemed nice, well most of them did. Except two, who rarely smiled and were asking me weird questions: like do you go clubbing? Freaky freaky. The exhibition extended over a few days so my friends and I got to see this group over and over again. Out of the many guys in the group who were all in their early twenties, I met one who particularly warmed up to me. He wasn't that nice looking, and acted weird at times; and not to mention a weird twitch he had sometimes; however all in all he was a good nice guy. You could tell by the way he treated my friends and I, and how he was opening up to me about different things in his life, mostly personal stuff. He also invited me out to dinner sometimes with his friends and he was kind, generous and had a sense of humour. He left the exhibition, and the country back to where he was from; but shockingly he stayed in touch. In fact I've never seen someone staying in touch that much. I am talking about hours on the phone every day. Over time he confessed he had feelings for me. I enjoyed the attention I was getting and in the same time started to ask myself if this would work between us. Long distance was a bit difficult, because it needed commitment from both sides. Strangely enough in our case, we both had the commitment; I knew we could make it work. But, was I attracted to him?? I wasn't so sure. Besides his lack of aesthetic beauty, which I didn't mind THAT much; there was something about him that struck me as odd. Sometimes I felt like he was an alien from another planet. Those thoughts aside; I still greatly appreciated the fact he was always in touch and showed his care and affection for me, which is alot to say for most guys we've met!!

One day as I was receiving a phone call from him he told me how much he loves me and wants this relationship to work with me. How keen he was on making it work...How much he cared for me.Wow I thought......How expressive of him. How honorable. How wonderful! How cute...We started getting closer, asking each other more personal questions. Until I decided to bring up the taboo subject. Had he done it before? If so when was the last time? I've always believed someone's sexual history says a thing or two about them. Suddeny, he replied and told me "Yesterday". WHAT. That was the only thing running through my mind.

Then, it was WHAT, HOW, WHERE, WHEN, WHY, WHO. Of course he told me the details of how he met the girl and what happened. but the main conclusion was, "It was JUST a one night stand."

I could not believe that was the way he saw it. To come from a decent, loving and affectionate man who actually showed his feelings to a girl for once, that was a hard one to take in!!

All I could think of was the dichotomy between his feelings for me, and his subsequent actions. And No guys, there is no such thing as "JUST" a one night stand. A one night stand is what it is, a one night stand. Immoral! Especially if you are confessing and showing extensive affection to a potential girlfriend. Do not go and sleep with someone in between! Discipline is just as much a part of love , as love is a part of love.